We support the people who care for survivors of sexual or violent crime

We call people caring in this incredibly demanding role, 3rd party victims of crime because they are forgotten victims. They are parents, carers, children, close friends and partners who step in to care when the worst happens, often for decades.

The psychological, financial and practical impact of providing care often over many years can be devastating. Our aim is to provide the missing support to ensure that they are able to prioritise their loved one’s recovery without sacrificing their own health, the wellbeing of other family members, their financial stability, work and career prospects.

While many victims of crime prefer to refer to themselves as survivors, the lack of awareness, support and stigmatisation faced by people caring for survivors means that their needs are dismissed or ignored. They are the forgotten victims of crime. Through our work, we hope to change this.

Please support our work

Our aims

One minute I had a career, a social life and our life was fantastic – we were building a future. The next, I had to abandon my job and provide care for my partner. I wouldn’t change that in any way but as his mental health has deteriorated, I have become more isolated, our finances have collapsed neither of us have any idea what the future will be. Apart from bleak.

Stefan, A partner

We offer practical and personalised support to 3rd party victims of crime based in Suffolk and Norfolk. You can contact us using this form. If you are outside our current working area, then the information in our Help and Support section provides comprehensive and detailed information that should help.

Restitute offers training to organisations, businesses and particularly those agencies that count victims of crime and their families amongst their service users. Our training is delivered by 3rd party victims of crime with lived experience of caring for someone who is a survivor of a serious sexual or violent crime.

3rd party victims of crime face stigmatisation and misunderstanding on a daily basis. They suffer guilt and shame that leads to isolation, mental health issues on top of the demands of caring for a loved one with complex needs. Our education and awareness raising work aims to bust myths and create more understanding and support across society. Find out how to support our work here.

Something keeping you up at night?

You aren’t alone. You may find more information in our section: “The Tough Stuff” – things no-one talks about

During my exams I had to go and stay at a friends house because things were so unpredictable at home. I couldn’t guarantee getting a good night’s sleep because of my sister’s mental health.

Nathan, A brother

The reality is that people don’t just ‘get over’ childhood sexual abuse. The damage is long-lasting and disabling in many cases. Friends of mine I think expected there to be some progress and stability and there isn’t – not for a long time. After a while, people seem to fall by the wayside, fed up with me cancelling plans or even thinking that I must be doing something wrong due to all the ups and downs.

Leah, A mum

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