Anger in itself is not a bad thing. Repressing anger or other big emotions doesn’t help as it stays inside and causes both physical and mental ill-health. Managing anger isn’t about suppressing it but letting it out in a safe way that doesn’t hurt or alarm others. People who have no outlet for their anger may turn to self-harm, alcohol or other forms of self-medication to deal with it. They may lash out with violent acts or words or seek to deal with their own lack of control by controlling others through fear or intimidation or threats.
Anger and frustration isn’t reserved for survivors of violent or sexual crimes. Carers, siblings and other family members also have enormous emotional challenges that can spill over into violent thoughts and acts. Everyone involved needs to find ways of dealing with it safely.